HOW TO OVERCOME A FEAR OF ONLINE DATING

One of the most common ways to meet potentially romantic partners in our world today is online dating. It’s convenient, quick, and gives you the opportunity of knowing a potential fit before a meeting is arranged.

However, some people fear online dating for several reasons. Some people are afraid, because most online dating platforms allow strangers access their personal information. Others simply shy away from it because there is no guarantee that they will meet the people whom they deem fit on the first match.

TIPS TO OVERCOMING THE FEAR OF ONLINE DATING

The truth remains that the safety and pleasure that is enjoyed in physical dating can also be experienced in online dating. You should be fine if you are passionate about meeting the right partner and are on the right dating site.

Here are a few tips to get you ready for a pleasant online dating experience:

·        WORK ON YOUR CONFIDENCE: Confidence plays a vital role when it comes to online dating.

o   It is important that you discover the source of your fear of online dating. This will help you identify what you need to tackle. For example, if the source of your fear is people judging you for using a dating site, you can tackle that by learning a few facts. Studies show that about 59% of Americans believe that one good way to meet people is through online dating. Calmly tell yourself while you stand in front of the mirror that there is no stigma for online dating. Remind yourself constantly that meeting the right partner is worth the sacrifice. You can also read the success stories of others who have met the right partner after online dating to keep you motivated and encouraged.

o   Create a list of the qualities that you possess that make you valuable. Start by writing the things that you admire about yourself. This will play a vital role in building your self-worth. Go beyond what you like about your appearance and write down other amiable qualities about your personality. Place the list in a visible spot in your house to remind you of your strengths. If you have a problem with developing a list, you can start by writing out what your friends like about you.

·        OWN YOUR EMOTIONS: If there is one thing that you do not want to be out of control, it should be your emotions. It is important that you learn to be in charge of how you feel. The aim is to confront your fears and develop a means to tackle them.

o   After you have identified the source of your fears for online dating, ask yourself, “What is the worst thing that can happen?” Sometimes, when we visualize the worst-case scenario of a situation, we discover that it is not as terrible as it may seem.

o   Write down a strategy that can help you overcome every scenario that you have visualized in your head. This will get you ready for anything that can come up.

o   The next step is to create an emotional goal. This will keep you guarded against a flood of emotions on things that you should be careful about. It will help keep you in check if things are moving faster than they should.