Relationships can be fragile, and all that’s needed is one small fight to lead to relationship ruin. Sure, there is some debate on the strength of a relationship if a single fight leads to a breakup. But there are a few fights that seem to lead to ruin faster than others.
If you’ve been in a fight over the following, you may not be meant to be.
1. Arguing Over Spending Too Much Time With Family
Spending quality time with family is very important. But this is subjective. One partner may prefer to spend as little time with their family as possible, while the other may want to spend every weekend with their family.
If you have an issue with a partner spending time with family, you’ll want to be upfront and honest about the issue from the start.
You can either accept this family dynamic from the start, or you can opt to leave the relationship. If there’s a strong family dynamic, arguing over the person’s family ties may lead to the end of your relationship.
Choose your battles wisely here.
2. Fights Over Finances
Finances are one of the key reasons for divorce. When a couple argues over money often, it may be a sign of the end. Now, it’s always good to discuss finances early on if you live together. This means discussing how bills will be split as well as who contributes what.
And when a financial emergency occurs, your relationship will be tested.
This means a family car needing to be replaced, trenchless pipe repairs being made or a home needing a new roof. Even emergency veterinarian bills will be a financial struggle that can split a couple apart.
Be open about your finances, including your debt, so that you go into a relationship with a clean slate.
3. Sex Drive Arguments
Everyone has a different sex drive. Some people have a thriving sex drive that is fueled from the right outfit or just a look from their partner. But, sometimes, this spark starts to fade and will be gone before a person even realizes it.
It’s important to understand your relationship dynamic.
If your partner has lost their sex drive and your sex drive is in overdrive, some form of compromise must be made. A happy medium will need to be created, or an argument will turn into two arguments and three arguments, and before you know it, there will be so much resentment that the relationship will be beyond repair.
4. Fights Over Children
An argument over children can be a very painful one. Perhaps one partner’s dream is to have children and the other partner wants nothing to do with kids. In this case, a lot of conversations and compromises will need to be made.
And let’s assume that you have kids. One of the best ways to put a wedge between you and your partner is to fight over parenting techniques.
One parent may be easy-going, and the other may be strict and want their children to do chores and their homework before going to a friend’s house. You need to come to some form of common ground with how to parent your kids, or it may lead to a relationship failure.