Of all the horrid marital situations to end up in, being married to a narcissist nears the top of many lists. It’s more than enough to make you start looking for a divorce lawyer and it’s best that you can identify the signals early so you know what you’re dealing with.
This article will help you with exactly that, pointing out some of the most obvious signs that your partner is a narcissist and that you’ve got some serious considerations to make moving forward. Read on, and find out what you need to know.
If there’s one thing narcissists are good at, it’s driving you mad by insisting that they didn’t say the things you heard them say or implying that you’re misinterpreting their actions.
Narcissists are skilled manipulators, and so they’ll try to sow the seeds of doubt within you, make you question reality, and bamboozle you to the point where you don’t know what’s true and what’s false. This is one aspect shared by almost every marriage in which one of the partners is a narcissist, so if you notice it, it’s a sign to pay attention to other clues.
A Sudden Change in Demeanor
When you first met, your spouse was charming, caring, and oh so attentive. Now, some time later, it feels like they’re a completely different person — aloof, and with little consideration toward what you think and feel. The bait-and-switch is a telltale sign of the narcissist, so they’ll show you their true colors in due time.
It’s All About Them
Narcissists are always about themselves. They have an unhealthy preoccupation with themselves, and so they are prone to turn every conversation they have into an opportunity to highlight themselves — regardless of what the topic was originally. If you notice your partner trying to dominate discussions this way, watch out.
They Hold a Mean Grudge
A normal person knows how to have a healthy disagreement, and then move on with their life. Not a narcissist, though. They’ll hold onto that one little thing you did that upset them, and instead of communicating about it like a responsible adult, they’ll hold it over your head and use it as an excuse for bad behavior well into the future.
Don’t Fall for a Narcissist’s Games
Narcissists love to toy with people, and they can never imagine themselves as being wrong. Don’t fall for their trickery. It’s hard to feel like you’re in a fair relationship with a narcissist, especially when they are playing games, so take some time to consider your situation and think about what you’ll need to do to either correct it or move on.